Late Development: late doesn't necessarily mean never

“The path of development is a journey of discovery that is clear only in retrospect, and it’s rarely a straight line.” ― Eileen Kennedy-Moore

Should I just give up?

Sometimes developmental milestones may not ever be met, other times we simply need to hang in there long enough.  Once upon a time, I lived in a placed called denial for a few good months.  I always just chalked K's lack of speech up to being a late bloomer.  Too many thoughts in his head maybe.  Right.

The day I accepted my gut feeling was right all along was a hard day.  I called mom for reassurance, only to hear, "I think you are right."  My shower that day hid the gallons of tears I shed while wondering if I would ever hear the sound of his voice.  Despair overwhelmed me and my mind switched over to the constant expectation of "never."

It looks nothing like I had imagined...

My son found his voice, albeit late, and many hours of intervention later.  There are milestones that likely will never be met for us (or for others of you).  Hang in there!  Keep trying, and when you can't take it anymore, take a (well deserved!) break.  You may see no rhyme or reason in the how and why of now, but the "future you" may see beauty in the chaos that once was.

Maybe your child won't recover or learn some skills.  Maybe life will be different than you pictured...  I suppose optimism is my coping method of choice, but I find it has served me well!


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